Grace Energized Men: Don't Waste your Life
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As we open to the book of Titus, remember that the New Testament has three letters written specifically to pastors, explaining how they are to teach and lead Christ's flock. Titus is one of the three, and is a book about how all of us are to conduct ourselves in Christ's church. I, II Timothy and Titus are these “Pastoral Epistles” where God explains the “How to’s” for the churches that Christ is building.
The essence of God’s plan is that He wants to enlist men who are at the peak of their lives and careers, to invest the best days of their lives with Him. He has the same plan for women who are at in the best days of their lives. And for those in the strong and flexible days of their youth, He has the same request. Give your life to Me, don’t waste your life on anything less!
In Titus 2, God says to start a training program that would involve comprehensive, church-wide nurturing. The curriculum God offers has 24 specific lessons. We are beginning on those lessons in this study of Titus 2:1-2. Look again at God's Word:
Titus 2:1-2 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience;
I like to consider these verses a series of:
Choices that keep us
From Wasting Life
We could conclude that in Titus 2:2, God asks each older man to make a choice: “You can invest your life, or waste your life—it’s up to you!”
Think about those choices as we look at this crucial portion of Scripture for every man who knows Christ!
These are the first six lessons are to be taught to the “older” men. Paul asked Titus to be on the lookout for “older” men to enlist in the training of younger men. But before we examine that training course, who exactly would make up the list of “older” and “younger” men? The Bible of course helps us define these designations.
In Philemon, Paul describes himself with the same word we find in Titus 2:2. Let’s turn there to the very next book in your Bible, to Philemon 1, for a moment.
Philemon 1:9 yet for love’s sake I rather appeal to you—being such a one as Paul, the aged, and now also a prisoner of Jesus Christ—NKJV
“Paul the aged” (Paulos presbutes) is where we see the very same word as the one used in Titus 2:2. The other term, for younger men we can find when the event in Acts 7:58 is recounted, Paul is there described as a young man (neanias) when he stood as a witness to the stoning of Stephen.
Acts 7:58 and they cast him out of the city and stoned him. And the witnesses laid down their clothes at the feet of a young man named Saul. NKJV
So, Paul is using some standard of age classification that the readers of his epistles in that day would know:
Who are the Older ones
Of Christ's Church
In Philemon, we know from the chronology of the New Testament, that Paul is either at age 60 or close to it, so that means that when he speaks of the older man he most likely uses the cultural designation from his day that called men of 50+ “older men”. In secular Greek literature we find Hippocrates (the father of medicine) calling men presbutes when they are between the ages of 49 to 59 and geron (as in Geritol and gerontology) for anyone past that age.
We also know that within Biblical parameters, God had already established a program where the Levites would retire at age 50 to assist and mentor the younger priests (Num 8:24–26).
Numbers 8:24-26 “This is what pertains to the Levites: From twenty-five years old and above one may enter to perform service in the work of the tabernacle of meeting; 25 “and at the age of fifty years they must cease performing this work, and shall work no more. 26 “They may minister with their brethren in the tabernacle of meeting, to attend to needs, but they themselves shall do no work. Thus you shall do to the Levites regarding their duties.” NKJV
If we follow the terms used in God's Word we find that “older” refers to men in the ages between 50 and 60+. In America, that translates to men at the peak of their careers, when they are no longer struggling with getting their career started. It is when they have mastered their work and reach the age when they can actually pour their life into all that they do because of the vast experience they have gained.
When the Social Security Administration analyzed two generations of withholding taxes, they concluded that for highly skilled and educated men the most common pattern was that they reached and maintained their peak earnings in the decade and a half starting at age 50.
America recently passed the year that the birthrate of the group called “Baby Boomers” peaked. In 1957 there were 4.3 million babies born. Those who survived turned 50 that year—and became the largest group ever in our American history to turn 50 years of age.
Why is that significant? Because if they are normal boomers the average 50 year old has some big choices—start the final hard push for the best, most financially secure retirement possible, or do something else with greater eternal value.
Just mentioning the concepts of aging, finances, retirement and the Lordship of Christ over our lives as believers—in one sentence—is meddlesome at best for most people. But since Paul brought up the magic age of 50, we must pause and think about our lives. Either you are 50, were 50, or someday may get to be 50 years of age, and:
At age 50 God Wants You
Investing YOUR Life a very Special Way!
In Biblical language, at 50—you have reached the place where you should be a recognized mentor of younger men or women in godliness. If you are an “older” man or woman, and you love the Lord with all your heart—your spiritual ears of your heart should be wide open right now.
God wants you to serve His church in an unusual and special way. He wants you to live a life that testifies that the Lord is good—good enough to obey completely, to trust implicitly, to follow faithfully, and to intentionally sacrifice my comfort, my security, and my convenience for His Cause!
Few writers have the gift of expressing truth as well as John Piper, the missionary-hearted, teaching pastor at Bethlehem Baptist of Minneapolis. Let me read an excerpt from a book everyone should read when they get anywhere near 50 called: Don’t Waste Your Life (2003):
A Tragedy in the Making
You may not be sure that you want your life to make a difference. Maybe you don’t care very much whether you make a lasting difference for the sake of something great. You just want people to like you. If people would just like being around you, you’d be satisfied. Or if you could just have a good job with a good wife, or husband, and a couple of good kids and a nice car and long weekends and a few good friends, a fun retirement, and a quick and easy death, and no hell—if you could have all that (even without God)—you would be satisfied. That is a tragedy in the making. A wasted life.
These Lives and Deaths
Were No Tragedy
In April 2000, Ruby Eliason and Laura Edwards were killed in Cameroon, West Africa. Ruby was over eighty. Single all her life, she poured it out for one great thing: to make Jesus Christ known among the unreached, the poor, and the sick. Laura was a widow, a medical doctor, pushing eighty years old, and serving at Ruby’s side in Cameroon.
The brakes failed, the car went over a cliff, and they were both killed instantly. I asked my congregation: Was that a tragedy? Two lives, driven by one great passion, namely, to be spent in unheralded service to the perishing poor for the glory of Jesus Christ—even two decades after most of their American counterparts had retired to throw away their lives on trifles?
No, that is not a tragedy. That is a glory. These lives were not wasted. And these lives were not lost. “Whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel’s will save it” (Mark 8:35).
An American Tragedy:
How Not to Finish Your One Life
I will tell you what a tragedy is. I will show you how to waste your life. Consider a story from the February 1998 edition of Reader’s Digest, which tells about a couple who:
“took early retirement from their jobs in the Northeast five years ago when he was 59 and she was 51. Now they live in Punta Gorda, Florida, where they cruise on their 30 foot trawler, play softball and collect shells.”
At first, when I read it I thought it might be a joke. A spoof on the American Dream. But it wasn’t.
Tragically, this was the dream: Come to the end of your life—your one and only precious, God-given life—and let the last great work of your life, before you give an account to your Creator, be this: playing softball and collecting shells.
Picture them before Christ at the great day of judgment: “Look, Lord. See my shells.”
That is a tragedy. And people today are spending billions of dollars to persuade you to embrace that tragic dream. Over against that, I put my protest: Don’t buy it. Don’t waste your life.
"God created us to live with a single passion: to joyfully display his supreme excellence in all the spheres of life. The wasted life is the life without this passion. God calls us to pray and think and dream and plan and work not to be made much of, but to make much of him in every part of our lives." [551 words]
What our dear gifted brother is passionately asking is whether or not we are going to see Jesus Christ clearer and clearer the older we get. Which makes us also ask--How well do you see Jesus today?
Remember, the very first thing that salvation does, according to Jesus Christ Himself—the Author of salvation-is that it opened our eyes to see the real world, the spiritual dimension, God and His Kingdom and His Word. Those were Christ's words in Acts 26:18:
Acts 26:18 ‘to open their eyes, in order to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan to God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins and an inheritance among those who are sanctified by faith in Me.’ NKJV
So we were saved to see Christ, love Him, and offer our lives back to Him. But unless we are careful, we can allow the Lord to get blurry.
What can keep us from
Seeing Jesus in Daily Life?
Jesus answers that question in one of His most sobering postcards, the one to the final church called Laodicea. It was a literal church in the first century, and may well be a prophetic look at the very age in which we live. Here is what Jesus says to each of us who live in these dangerous times of great comfort, wealth, security, and freedom of unlimited choices.
“Because you say, ‘I am rich, have become wealthy, and have need of nothing’—and do not know that you are … blind, and naked—I counsel you to buy from Me gold refined in the fire, that you may be rich; and white garments … that the shame of your nakedness may not be revealed; and anoint your eyes with eye salve, that you may see” (Revelation 3:17–18).
Jesus is warning us to be careful of three grave dangers, and especially for those who are 50+, these dangers are more virulent than melanoma or staphylococcus (both MRSA and VRSA). Here are three deadly spiritual pathogens:
These sins of old age (which can also occur at an earlier age) can erase Christ’s “Well done!” Remember Solomon: he began by sacrificing thousands of animals and building the most beautiful worship place for the Lord, but he failed to finish well. He got to heaven yet so as by fire. (In today’s language, we’d say that Solomon got into heaven “by the skin of his teeth.”) What are these sins of old age?
- ♣ The Lust for Comfort and Convenience: This sin is epidemic. We continually lust for comfort. A life consumed with a lust for comfort and convenience like that won’t finish well. (Rev. 3:17-18)
- ♣ Greed for Recognition: Older people usually want to receive recognition of some sort. In fact, it seems that almost everyone lusts for the applause of others. We must beware of seeking approval from people and instead seek approval only from God. (Matthew 6:2, 5, 16)
- ♣ Covetousness for Security: Our whole country has become security-obsessed. People want to know how to best secure retirement funds, how to secure college education funds, how to get job security, and how to secure their homes and other possessions. We are caught up in the pursuit of security, and are wasting valuable time and energy to protect things we cannot keep. (Isaiah 31:1)
These sins of old age—the lust for comfort, greed for recognition, and covetousness for security—can erase Christ’s “Well done!”
What is exception-ism? It is thinking that your life is an exception to God’s Word. Thus you excuse yourself from doing anything for heaven because of things like your past, pain, poverty, or poor self-image.
Think carefully on this: you will never be in the future what you are not becoming today. If you are not responding to and obeying God’s Word now, and you feel like you’re always an exception, that attitude will stay with you till the end.
Un-Mortified pockets of pride
“Un-mortified pockets of pride” means allowing pride to grow that can make you secretly, inwardly proud of your intellect (thinking you are smarter than others); or proud of your achievements (thinking you are better than others); or proud of your goodness (thinking “I’m not as bad as others”).
Sin, in the light of sin, never does look bad, but sin in the light of God’s holiness always looks bad. Pockets of pride in your life can erase Christ’s “Well done!”
As we turn back to Titus 2, note again the description of the men who will not waste their lives. Those special men in Christ's Church will be:
Godly Men of
The men of Crete, saved by grace, were to be personally trained in the six areas that God considered paramount for the survival of His Church. As we read through these descriptions of the highly useful men of Christ's church, ask yourself, “Is this the direction of my life?”
v.1 “But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine, v.2a that the older men be…”:
- 1. “sober”: This is a call for older, godly men to Maintain A Balanced Life In An Obsessive-Compulsive World; MAINTAINING A BALANCED LIFE IN AN OBSESSIVE-COMPLUSIVE WORLD. God wants matured, godly older men in Christ's church to live a life that exemplifies Jesus to a watching world.
- 2. “reverent”: God also asks older men to Stay Serious About God In An Amused World; GETTING SERIOUS ABOUT GOD IN AN AMUSED WORLD. God wants older men who model what it’s like to live life seriously. This man thinks deeply in an amused, shallow-thinking culture. He is an older man in the faith who understands the brevity of life, the gravity of God’s Word, and the reality of eternity.
- 3. “temperate“: Then they are to be characterized by Living Wisely In A Foolish World; LIVING WISELY IN A FOOLISH WORLD. God wants older men whose lives are yielded to His control. God wants a man whose life speaks louder than his words; whose character is noticed and prompts other men to examine their own lives and seek to emulate his joy, his peace, and his walk in the Spirit—in evident and practical ways.
Then Paul gives the second trio of qualities…Sound in faith, in love, in patience.
- 4. “sound in faith“: This means God wants them always Guarding A Healthy Mind In A Sick World; GUARDING A HEALTHY MIND IN A SICK WORLD. God wants older men with healthy minds. Sound is from the same word (hugiain) used in v.1 for Biblical doctrine, and refers to things that are healthy, proper, whole, and as they ought to be.
- 5. “ [sound in] love“: Means that God also wants His servants to Stay Tender Hearted In A Cruel World; STAYING TENDER HEARTED IN A CRUEL WORLD. God wants men who have His love overflowing within making them personally loving towards others, not bitter. These godly men grow more and more tender toward the views and the mistakes of those around them—instead of getting more and more inflexible and intolerant.
- 6. “[sound in] patience“: And finally, as we’ll see later today, God wants older men to Finish Hopefully In A Despairing World. FINISHING HOPEFULLY IN A DESPAIRING WORLD. God wants men who persevere through all the hard times life will always bring—and then model that triumphant hope Christ alone can bring.
Grace-energized men, living in a sin-energized world, are God’s plan.
Invest the Rest of Your Life
God is on the lookout for men who have ears to hear His Word, eyes that see His plan, and who are surrendered, yielded, sold-out, full-hearted, true-seekers of Him.
Helen H. Lemmel (1864–1961), the blind hymn writer, gave us this beautiful song (it is Hymn # 335).
I invite you to turn your eyes fully upon your precious Jesus as I read the words to this great song. Its chorus packs a powerful message of surrender for today’s church!
Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus
O soul, are you weary and troubled?
No light in the darkness you see?
There’s light for a look at the Savior,
And life more abundant and free!
Thro’ death into life ever-lasting
He passed, and we followed Him there;
Over us sin no more hath dominion—
For more than conq’rors we are.
His word shall not fail you—He promised;
Believe Him, and all will be well:
Then go to a world that is dying,
His perfect salvation to tell!
Turn your eyes upon Jesus,
Look full in His wonderful face,
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of His glory and grace.
Ask Him here today to open your eyes.
APPENDIX: Series Overview
The 24 Spiritual Qualities
God is looking for
Today in Christ's Church
God has Six Desires
For Every Mature Man
Sober: Maintaining a balanced life in an obsessive-compulsive world
Reverent: Getting serious about God in an amused world
Temperate: Living wisely in a foolish world
Sound in Faith: Guarding a healthy mind in a sick world
[Sound in] Love: Staying tender-hearted in a cruel world
[Sound in] Patience: Finishing hopefully in a despairing world
Godly Men of
The men of Crete, saved by grace, were to be personally trained by Titus in the six areas that God considered paramount for the survival of His Church. As we read through these descriptions of the highly useful men of Christ's church, ask yourself, “Is this the direction of my life?”
These qualities can be defined as:
v.1 “But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine, v.2a that the older men be…”:
- 1. “sober”: This is a call for older, godly men to Maintain A Balanced Life In An Obsessive-Compulsive World; MAINTAINING A BALANCED LIFE IN AN OBSESSIVE-COMPLUSIVE WORLD. God wants matured, godly older men in Christ's church to live a life that exemplifies Jesus to a watching world. These men are to model the life God wants, to encourage younger men, then the older men take time to mentor some of the younger men, and challenge them to abandon the temptations of youth such as reckless living, impatience with decision making, thoughtless communication, and the unreliability that often characterizes young people.
- 2. “reverent”: God also asks older men to Stay Serious About God In An Amused World; GETTING SERIOUS ABOUT GOD IN AN AMUSED WORLD. God wants older men who model what its like to live life seriously. This man thinks deeply in an amused, shallow-thinking culture. This man never trivializes what God says is important; and lives a life that is not entertained by sensuality, never amused by vulgarity, and doesn’t treat life superficially. He won’t laugh at others troubles, nor mock their weaknesses. As an older person who has seen hardship, misfortune, and injustice—life is real, pain is serious, and time with people is important. He is an older man in the faith who understands the brevity of life, the gravity of God’s Word, and the reality of eternity.
- 3. “temperate“: Then they are to be characterized by Living Wisely In A Foolish World; LIVING WISELY IN A FOOLISH WORLD. God wants older men whose lives are yielded to His control. This man’s life is characterized by the Greek word sophronas which means, “self-controlled, restored to senses, earnest’. This one word is variously rendered into 4 different English words by the top 4 versions: “temperate” (KJV/NKJV); “self-controlled” (NIV); and “sensible” (NAS). God wants a man whose life speaks louder than his words; whose character is noticed and prompts other men to examine their own lives and seek to emulate his joy, his peace, and his walk in the Spirit--in evident and practical ways. The Titus 2 older-man-in-the-faith’s life is a pattern for others to use in shaping their own lives. Romans 12:3 For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith. NKJV To capture the sense of this verse it helps to put in the word ‘estimate’ then it would say: “Don’t overestimate yourself (huperphroneo ‘super-think’) beyond a true estimate, but estimate yourself with a proper estimate”. The godly older man cultivates a proper view of self that is honest and accurate. He has a realistic and Biblical view of his strengths, weaknesses, his God-given talents, and all his human deficiencies. After coming to an accurate appraisal of who he is and how God made him, he sees his place and purpose in God’s program. This man avoids the two extremes, he neither thinks he is better (pride and conceit) or worse (self-depreciation). Rather he thinks with wisdom from God above, through His Spirit within.
Then Paul gives the second trio of qualities…Sound in faith, in love, in patience.
- 4. “sound in faith“: This means God wants them always Guarding A Healthy Mind In A Sick World; GUARDING A HEALTHY MIND IN A SICK WORLD. God wants older men with healthy minds. Sound is from the same word (hugiain) used in v.1 for Biblical doctrine, and refers to things that are healthy, proper, whole, and as they ought to be. These godly older men, are as God describes them in Psalm 92:12-15. Their lives and words declare that God can be trusted in every way. They have learned not to question His wisdom. They hold fast to His goodness. They look and wait for His grace that comes with His divine plan.
- 5. “ [sound in] love“: Means that God also wants His servants to Stay Tender Hearted In A Cruel World; STAYING TENDER HEARTED IN A CRUEL WORLD. God wants men who have His love overflowing within making them personally loving towards others, not bitter. Christ's prime emotion, most recorded in God's Word is compassion. Love in our hearts makes us compassionate in our responses. These godly men are not fault-finders, nor unsympathetic. They are open to new people, new ideas, and not frozen in their old ways. They grow more and more tender toward the views and the mistakes of those around them—instead of getting more and more inflexible and intolerant.
- 6. “[sound in] patience“: And finally, as we’ll see later today, God wants older men to Finish Hopefully In A Despairing World. FINISHING HOPEFULLY IN A DESPAIRING WORLD. God wants men who persevere through all the hard times life will always bring—and then model that triumphant hope Christ alone can bring. Among the aged who are often characterized as fretful and down-hearted, they radiate hope. “They are to exhibit the ability to endure hardship, to accept disappointment and failure, to be satisfied despite thwarted personal desires and plans. They have learned to graciously live with such difficulties as physical weakness, loneliness, and being misunderstood and unappreciated. They do not lose heart when things do not turn out the way they had hoped and expected, but have the perfect confidence “that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” (Rom. 8:28).”
Grace-energized men living in a sin-energized world is God’s plan.
God has a Five Desires
For Every Mature Woman
These five qualities are to become the life-priorities for grace-energized women.
- 1. Reverent in Behavior: Living holy in an unholy world
- 2. Not Slanderers: Speaking gracefully in a graceless world
- 3. Not Given to Much Wine: Disciplining appetites in an undisciplined world
- 4. Teachers of Good Things: Modeling Godliness in an ungodly world
- 5. Admonish: Investing in others in a detached world
Godly Women of
Titus is next instructed to be sure that the women of influence are tuned to what God considers most meaningful and profitable for Christ's church. Paul says to Titus, be sure that each of the older women are taught that these five characteristics should be characterizing their daily lives. As I read this list and describe these qualities, do a mental check up on how you are doing ladies.
v. 3 “…the older women likewise, that they be”:
- 1. “reverent in behavior”: God is looking for godly, mature women who will Live Holy in an Unholy World;
- 2. “not slanderers”: God is looking for godly, mature women who will Speak Gracefully in a Graceless World;
- 3. “not given to much wine”: God is looking for godly, mature women who will Discipline (their) Appetites in an Undisciplined World;
- 4. “teachers of good things”— v. 4: God is looking for godly, mature women who will Model Godliness in an Ungodly World;
- 5. “that they admonish”: God is looking for godly, mature women who will make it a life long goal to be personally Investing in others in a Detached World.
God has a Seven Desires
For Every Young Woman
These seven qualities are to become the life-priorities for grace-energized young women.
- 1. Love Their Husbands: Self-sacrificing love in a selfish world
- 2. Love Their Children: Nurturing love in a loveless world
- 3. Discreet: Focusing on God in a foolish world
- 4. Chaste: Pursuing modesty in an immodest world
- 5. Homemakers: Pursuing homemaking in a hostile world
- 6. Good: Pursuing kindness in a harsh world
- 7. Obedient to their Husbands: Pursuing submission in a rebellious world
Young Women of
Paul then asks Titus to address the younger ladies in the congregations. The younger women were to be pointed down a pathway that would lead to them becoming the godly, older women of great influence in Christ's church. To be that woman of influence, these were the seven characteristics God was looking for on your spiritual resume, Paul asks Titus to explain.
v. 4b the young women:
- 1. “to love their husbands”: The most powerful tool in God’s hands for a watching world is a band of godly wives who live out in their marriages, Christ's Self-sacrificing Love in a Selfish World;
- 2. “to love their children”, v. 5: Then these women continue as mothers who demonstrate Christ's Nurturing Love in a Loveless World;
- 3. “to be discreet”: The younger women who are in tune with the Lord also are Focusing on God in a Foolish World;
- 4. “chaste”: They seek to be Pursuing Modesty in an Immodest World;
- 5. “homemakers”: And, knowing the role God has given to them, they seek His well done good and faithful servants by Pursuing Homemaking in a Hostile World;
- 6. “good”: And all through life they are Pursuing Kindness in a Harsh World
- 7. “obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed”: And finally, in step with the Spirit, and energized by grace they are Pursuing Submission in a Rebellious World.
God has a Six Desires
For Every Young Man
These six qualities are to become the life-priorities for grace-energized young men.
- 1. Sober-Minded: Living a restrained life in an unrestrained world
- 2. Pattern of Good Works: Becoming representations of Christ in a Christless world
- 3. Showing Integrity: Maintaining Godly purity in an impure world
- 4. Reverence: Keeping a singular focus in a blurred world
- 5. Incorruptibility: Keeping an incorruptible life in a decaying world
- 6. Sound Speech: Speaking God’s words in a Godless world
Tomorrow’s Godly Men
Finally, Paul said that God put the spotlight on the next generation of leaders for Christ's church. The young men, who want to grow up to be the godly and mature servants of God must begin while they are young to cultivate these six qualities.
v. 6 “Likewise exhort the young men”:
- 1. “to be sober-minded”, v. 7: First in any godly man’s life is a firm resolve to Live A Restrained Life In A Lust-Filled World;
- 2. “in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works”: Next, these men seek to Become Representations of Christ In A Christ-less World;
- 3. “in doctrine showing integrity”: Then is the constant desire to Maintain Godly Purity In An Impure World;
- 4. “reverence”: And the vigilant attitude of Keeping A Singular Focus In A Blurred World;
- 5. “incorruptibility”, v. 8: This means that God wants His servants to shine before our sin-darkened world by Keeping an Incorruptible Life in a Decaying World;
- 6. “sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you”. (NKJV):And finally, the whole reason God left His servants here was to go and “tell”, so godly young men are Speaking God’s Words In A Godless World.